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Author: toni

~ 05/25/10


Be warned. I’m in a complaining  mode. Specifically about how much of my life is consumed by my child and her activities. Oh don’t act like you’ve never been there. If you don’t occasionally feel totally overwhelmed, irritated and maybe a teeny bit  resentful by how much of yourself you have given up for the sake of your children then you are either a pod person or heavily medicated.

I mean HOW FAR SHOULD OUR MOMBLIGATIONS GO?  When I was a kid, parents didn’t play with us and schlep us around to every activity under the sun. In fact, the extent of their involvement with us (other than feeding and clothing us) was to shout – whilst fixing dinner or gluing together the broken coffee table, “Go outside and play and don’t come home until the streetlights come on!”

Nowadays, my kid has such a social schedule you’d think she was the President of the United States of Children.

Especially this week when all of her activities have come together in a sort of PERFECT STORM.

MONDAY – school/ piano

TUESDAY – End of year conference/ school/dance class/ rehearsal for Talent Show

WEDNESDAY – 2 Talent Show performances for the school in the a.m./ Dance competition rehearsal after school

THURSDAY – School Awards Assembly (she’s getting an award…shhhh!)/ Orthodontist appt./ Talent Show Rehearsal/ Evening Talent Show performance for parents

FRIDAY – Dance competition at a location SO FAR AWAY that will take hours in rush hour traffic on Memorial weekend to get to…ARRRGH!


Crazy, huh? And yet, I’m not the only one. All the parents I know have gone hog-wild crazy catering to their kids and their kids’ activities. And most other parents have more than one child so you can multiply their madness accordingly!  

So, where is MY time, you ask? The pathetic bits and pieces of the day eked out to attend to MY work, MY chores, MY personal hygiene? And why is a girl who says she wants to be a doctor when she grows up so focused on the arts anyway? Good questions. If you have the answers, lemme know.

Meanwhile…. before any of you state the obvious, let me just say it myself.

IT’S ALL MY FAULT!  My kid only has this mad schedule because I have allowed it. Yet, as a parent I have the right, the obligation to JUST SAY NO!

And you know what? I plan on doing just that. From here on out, I’m putting my foot down.

Yessiree. Next time she tells me she’d like to take an art class, or join the school chess club I’ll stare her straight in her big,  chocolatey brown eyes that look at me with such unconditional love and I’LL TELL HER…

“You listen here, missy. ABSOLUTELY NOT…. until I have some time to think about it.”

I know. I know. I’m a total pushover. So sue me. I don’t know  why I do it. Love or guilt or the desire to give my kid what I didn’t have in my childhood. Or just because I’m her mom and think she’s the most talented little thing on the planet and generally, it’s all fun, even for me. Probably it’s a little of everything.  Still, the bottom line is that I bring it on myself. And therefore, I shouldn’t complain.

Buuuuuuut…. since this is my  website and I pretty much do whatever I want on it…. WAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!


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  1. The last few weeks of school are always like this. I call these days, “Shot-out-of-a-cannon Days” when you feel like as soon as the alarm goes off, your hurtling through chaos of a tighltly scheduled calendar.

    My older daughter demonstrated her firm grasp of MY reality today when she commented on how busy her day had been, and how she wished she could just relax at home during the day like I do. I could hear crickets in the background as I managed to get my blood pressure under control and respond. Because you know what I did today? Went to three different plumbing stores, two lighting stores (we are remodeling), Target, Safeway and finally the post office…and that was just while my youngest was in preschool for 2 hours. Oh, and that was all before I planned and shopped for her Brownie meeting this afternoon.

    So, I’m telling myself that in order for her to think I lounge around with umbrella drinks all day, I must make this mom thing look pretty easy. And in the end, I took it as a compliment and told her that being a mother was something to aspire to, and that some day I hoped she’d be as lucky.

    Comment by mommymarchbanks — May 25, 2010 @ 7:23 pm

  2. Ah, mommymarchbanks…I am taking a few moments between 2 talent show performances (4 hours) and a 2 hour dress rehearsal for a dance competition to respond to your always enjoyable comments. First of all, yes, you DO make the whole mom thing look easy and quite fabulous. Second, you MUST accumulate evidence so that one day she sees the truth about what it was to be your daughter’s mother. My proof will be my website, which my daughter isn’t allowed to read until she’s 18 or I am too tired to argue, whichever comes first. Not that you want to make them feel guilty, but they should at least appreciate the extent of our sacrifices and the depth of our love. Also, it’ll prepare them for the reality of when they become mommies. Either that, or it will make them run screaming to the birth control aisle of the Walgreens.

    Comment by toni — May 26, 2010 @ 4:02 pm

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